There’s nothing like unexpected time on our hands, alone, to make us wonder about life. Not too many of us get it. I remember soul-searching during childbirth; there was time and enlightenment there for sure. Still, even an innocent stomach pain can induce a review of our mortality. COVID’s toll, too, induced much introspection on our philosophies, priorities and personal trajectories.
Now, graduations still echo in our ears. We may have watched someone important to us walk into the future, entering college away from home or leaving home. This, too, may usher in a pondering of our life actions and our influence and presence in the lives of others, especially loved ones.
We’ve talked about “showing up for your life” here at Chatterbox before, and no one will ever know the meaning of life, that’s for sure. Still, it’s only human to question it, and ourselves, at some point, and we do so, periodically. We wonder, “what have I done? Did I do enough? Did I do the right things, and what is the legacy I leave behind?” Or, as Notre Dame’s famous Daniel (Rudy) Ruettiger was quoted as saying, in the film called, “Rudy,” “Have I done all I could?” (If you haven’t seen it, see it and have tissues handy).
We’ve talked, on a few occasions, about what an obituary says about a life, and the story of a hefty obit from years ago that left an indelible mark on me, personally. It was of a man whose written legacy bespoke of the material riches of his life and his ability to make money for various corporations. It mentioned some, but very little, of his family or any of the usual affiliations most people have in life. It was a summary of a kind that really makes one think about priorities.
Of course, the body of work we create in our professional life will always dip into our time as a private person. Our work can consume our days, but it has to be done, whether it’s work done outside the home, from home, for the home, homework, or housework. We understand that. Still, occasionally, we’re going to ponder our choices, and review our life and its footprint. We know we certainly can’t do it all. We know we can’t even do as much as we’d like to, but we do still ask the question. We’ll wonder not only if we’ve done the right things but if we’ve done enough. Perhaps, that lingering wonder was the only gift with a human touch left by that wealthy gentleman’s life.
Still, these are the questions we usually ask ourselves no matter what we do for a living or what kind of living we do in our lifetime. Tomorrow is always another day, but time slips by swiftly and soul searching is most often done through the rear view mirror.
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